January 19, 2015

Let Life Love You

This one goes out to all of the people who feel guilty for having really good days. Or for those who expect nothing but doom after having a really good day.

(Scoot over so I can read this too).

Now from what I know about life, we have a bit of trouble relaxing. Even when things are going good.

There are days when I am so, so grateful for all of the good things in my life. I’ll wake up in my nice warm bed, in my beautiful apartment, take a nice hot shower, and pick out the day’s apparel from an extremely packed closet full of clothes. I’ll think damn, how did I get so lucky?

Then I’ll see the boyfriend and feel more lucky. I’ll show up to work and feel even more lucky.

And suddenly, in all of this gratitude, I’ll become afraid that it’s all too good. That things are just going too good. Do you have this fear sometimes? It’s almost like I’m expecting trouble to rear it’s ugly head somewhere because things are going so great. Some inner voice says, watch out Monique, things are going good now but just wait, it won’t last forever. Something bad’s bound to happen. 

The good thing about Hay House Radio is, it’s taught me to let life love me. (Rest assured, life loves you too.)

Take a Look Around At The Good

Without us really thinking about it, life gives us warm beds to sleep in every single night. It gives us two eyes to see everything with. It gives us such beautiful and diverse faces. We can stand up and sit down and wiggle all around whenever we want. We have a few good people in our life. We aren’t chained. We’re so free, and we’re so wonderful, and it’s okay to recognize and appreciate this freedom for what it is.

It’s Okay to Enjoy It

It’s okay to get into your safe, beautiful car and let the wind and sun hit your face. It’s okay when good things happen to you, because they’re happening for a reason. There’s no bad in it. It’s just raw, simple good. Take it at face value. No one says you can only have one good day, or one good moment. In fact your whole life can be good. (Say what?!)

I know that sometimes though, it’s hard to enjoy the good. Sometimes I’ll see something on the news about some kid dying at the hands of their own parents. I’ll see people who are without homes due to fires and natural disasters. I’ll hear about other people who are drowning in sorrow and I’ll think, wow. Is it okay for me to be happy when so much ungodly despair and negativity pervades some parts of the world?

And I’ll feel really, really guilty about having good things in my life. Like absurdly guilty. And then that whole doom and gloom feeling washes over me, like something bad is about to happen because look around! There’s bad everywhere!

Ask Yourself, Is Guilt Going to Help?

What I’ve learned from listening to Hay House Radio these past few days is that it’s normal and okay to feel guilty about things, but you have to ask yourself, how much is feeling guilty helping the situation? Is your guilt going to solve the problems of the world?

That’s a firm no. When life shows up in monumentally good ways, you have to let it love you. There’s a reason you’re where you are today, and where you are not. The universe is looking after you, whether you believe in it or not, and somehow this exceedingly good day landed in your lap. It’s a gift. Would you give away a gift someone gave to you out of love, just because you felt guilty for having it? There are a lot of things we deserve in this life, and gifts of love make up many of them.

Say It A Few Times

Yes, it’s time to get tribal. Life loves me. Say it out loud, or say it under your breath, any way so that it really sticks. Life loves me. It may seem awkward at first, or even a bit self-serving, as though we don’t deserve to walk around saying or thinking this. But that’s just our good ole’ ego getting in the way of everything. Per usual. So say it until it makes you feel good.

Life loves me.

It’s a real spirit lifter. Because after you say the ‘life loves me’ part, you can say ‘and I love life’. And then you have this beautiful relationship thing going on.

Let Life Love You

And when you hear about or see horribly heinous things happening in the world, remember that life loves those people too. It’s just that life is ALL OVER THE PLACE. It’s literally everywhere. It’s despair, it’s gladness, it’s crazy, it’s joy, it’s weird, it’s scary, it’s mysterious, it’s wobbly, it’s grey, it’s peach, it’s all over the fucking Google map. And yes, we have our heinous moments too. We don’t have worry-free lives. There are really unfortunate things that have happened to us, too.

But we also have good. And the people who are going through something heinous also have good. These horrible things aren’t an indicator of how our life is going to go, or that we don’t deserve the gifts we have. No two people’s experiences are the same. Different things happen to us for different reasons.

So if you’re feeling happy, stay there. Life is loving you in this very moment, the same way it’s been loving you since the first time you opened those big, beautiful eyes and took in your very first breath. Explore the way life loves you, and be grateful for it. Let it love you in your warm bed, in your nice car, in your beautiful face. Somewhere along the way, you did a few good things that got you to this good place. Be there to enjoy it.

Now of course, I wouldn’t recommend bragging about how good life is going for you to everyone you meet, obviously we’re talking about internal good stuff here, but you get the picture.

When things are going good for you, let them go good. Be grateful, and enjoy this goodness. Meditate on it. Enjoy it like the first bite of a greasy, cheesy pepperoni pizza.

Good is not guilt. Good is not doom. Good is good. And it sure as hell doesn’t have to be fleeting.


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Monique Muro

Monique is an exceedingly happy human from LA. She runs the blog A Novel Quest, and writes. A lot.

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  • http://thegoodluckknot.weebly.com Melissa Field

    I love this!!! I read this laying in bed this morning and it was super uplifting. I never got into Hay House radio, but had I discovered it years ago I may have. I started out listening to Healing with the Masters and You Wealth Revolution. I love the stuff you’re getting though so I have been turning on Hay House here and there lately.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Oh I’m so glad! Yeah some of the stuff doesn’t always resonate on Hay House, but I’d say 90% of it does for me haha. They’ve really made me see another side of life that I’d always known about on some level, but never delved into. I’m so glad you found some enjoyment out of this!! :) Thanks as always for reading and commenting!! xoxo

  • Cruz Espinoza

    Hello there,
    Just started reading your blog and may I start off by saying that almost every blog of yours is so resonating! Especially this particular one. Just the other day, Wednesday of this week to be exact I was having a most excellent day! So much that I began to feel that sense of guilt you so eloquently wrote about. I began to feel the anxiety come over me, feeling that because things were going so well, that something terrible and tragic is bound to happen! How could it be possible for me to be receiving all this positive energy without something going wrong? It was the guilt, the guilt of feeling to good, feeling like I did not deserve this. That the universe was wrong for rewarding me..but then I stopped and said to myself, wait, maybe it is ok for me to feel happy, to feel rewarded and it is definitely ok to have this ‘good’ day! Why the heck not! And now reading your blog made me feel even more positive about life loving me. Thank you for this awesome blog, it is a light that shines in the sometimes dark spaces of life :)

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Cruz–Thank you so much for sharing this with me! Hearing that this post uplifted you has uplifted me in ways you cannot imagine. It’s always okay to have good days, you’re right! Why the heck not!? I love that! I’m so, so glad to hear that this was a positive reinforcement in your life, as your comment today was a positive reinforcement in mine :) I can’t thank you enough for taking the time to share this with me. Here’s to letting the light in :)

  • Staci Gerardi

    I’m always waiting for the other shoe to drop, as they say. I forget all the time how to just enjoy the good. Two healthy kids. A roof over our heads. A husband who can shovel a lot of snow! Parents who live close by. I get to write all day, and I get paid to do it. Friends who want to spend time with me, and love me.
    It’s just always easier to believe the bad, and not the good.
    I think I just need to stop waiting for the other shoe to drop. Stop living my life cringing, waiting for that shoe to come down and rattle me.
    There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the good, you’re so right. SO RIGHT.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Aw Staci I’m so glad! It’s such good practice to remember all of the wonderful things we have, just tonight I was reciting all of the wonderful things in my life as I made my way to my apartment tonight. I’d love to start making this a habit, because it really does remind me how beautiful life is. And i think it’s wonderful that you get to write all day! Do you freelance write? I’ve been trying to break into that, and could definitely use some advice! Haha :) Thanks for stopping by!

  • Laura

    A grateful heart is a wonderful thing! I love this song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Qp11X6LKYY It helps ground me during the bad times. I don’t like to live in fear, even though I do find myself there. This life is hard sometimes for sure.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful song with me, Laura! I am listening to it now and it is so loving. I don’t like living in fear either, and each day I am learning to listen to what it’s telling me, and the gifts it has to give. xo

    • http://emulsifiedfamily.com/ Jennifer @ Emulsified Family

      I love this song too. :-)

  • http://pamperedteacher.com/ Cristin Frank

    So many positive thoughts – we deserve what we think. Cheers to you!

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      I agree, Cristin! Are you visiting from the commentathon? I’m having so much fun meeting new bloggers! :) I’ve got about 5 comments done, looking so forward to reading more great posts from everyone :)

      • http://pamperedteacher.com/ Cristin Frank

        Hi Monique, I’m here from the Commentathon – so much fun. Happy to discover your blog!

  • Staci

    Sometimes it’s hard not to assume something bad will happen because something good did. The balance of the universe and all that. But it’s great you’ve found a way to step over that hurdle and enjoy life and all the happiness it can bring!

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Hi Staci! Absolutely, and it’s often the bad things in life that teach us the most valuable lessons. Thanks so much for stopping by today!

  • http://emulsifiedfamily.com/ Jennifer @ Emulsified Family

    “Enjoy it like the first bite of a greasy, cheesy pepperoni pizza.” Love this metaphor!

    Thanks for the reminder to enjoy the good when it comes. Often I’m too busy thinking of what might be coming that I don’t focus on what I do have at the moment. :-)

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      And now I’m really craving pizza! Hahaha. I’m so glad this resonated with you, Jennifer. I’ve been trying to meditate more throughout the day so that I can really remember to cherish the small moments. Thanks for stopping by!

  • http://www.livingwithbeth.com Beth McIntire

    Everybody has problems. They’re all temporary, though. Things get better.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Agreed! Thanks for stopping by Beth! :)

  • http://hikingthenw.com NWHikingFamily

    I genuinely enjoy your writing style. Nicely done. :) And this is such a great reminder for us all. Doom and gloom types are rarely able to enjoy life as it happens.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Aw thank you so much! I agree, we should enjoy the good as it happens. Life isn’t always good of course, but being present when it *is* good makes all the difference. Thanks for stopping by, so much appreciated! :)

  • Amy

    Beautifully put. Life is a gift and we should treat it that way.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Well said, thanks Amy! Great to meet you virtually :)

  • http://worthingtonave.com Cami

    Thank you for this reminder. When things start going really good for us, I get so scared that it’s the calm before the storm and forget to enjoy it!

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Me too! I totally need to remember to enjoy, enjoy, enjoy. Also, loved your post about the children’s books! Great read! :)

  • Phyllis Sather

    Great reminder. Thanks for sharing. I’ll reread this again soon.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Awesome, thanks so much Phyllis!

  • Trena

    You offer a unique perspective on things.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Thanks Trena! Always good to hear :) Hope you’re doing well!

  • http://lovehopeadventure.com Keelie Reason

    What a great post. I love your style of writing. You really know how to catch a reader’s attention. :) I really enjoyed this.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Thanks so much Keelie, that really made my night! And thanks so much for stopping by, looking forward to checking out your blog as well!

  • Lisa @ Saving Cent by Cent

    This is a good reminder to focus on the good each day and be grateful, even if it’s just a simple thing in life.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Absolutely, thanks so much for stopping by Lisa!

  • http://www.corter.co Jennifer Corter

    This is definitely something that I needed to read today! Thank you for such an inspirational and uplifting post!

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Absolutely, thanks so much for stopping by! It’s great to meet you via blog comment :) haha. Have a fantastic week, hope to talk to you again soon!

  • http://hellofelecia.com/ Felecia Efriann

    It so important to enjoy the good in life, not miss out on enjoying because you’re waiting for the bottom to drop out and something bad to happen. Enjoying each day, every moment for what it is, makes life a lot more enjoyable to live.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Couldn’t agree more Felecia! Thanks so much for stopping by! xo

  • Barbara James

    As Elsa would say, sometimes you just have to Let it go. Take it one day at a time because tomorrow is not promised. I enjoy being alive and healthy and having family. Great read.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Hahahah I love that song! I enjoy being alive too, thanks for saying that, it’s a good reminder that life is enjoyable :) Thanks so much for stopping by!

  • Angela McKinney

    Great post and something I really needed to read. I tend to go too fast and miss life altogether.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      I am in the same boat Angela, I’m so glad you liked the post. Thanks for stopping by!

  • http://thekoalabearwriter.blogspot.com Bonnie Way

    I agree it’s better to look at the good in life and to appreciate it than to look at the bad and worry that could happen to us. Worry doesn’t help anything. :) I’m thankful every day for the way God has blessed me and I try to remember to appreciate my husband and friends and others in my life. Thanks for sharing! :)

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Absolutely Bonnie, worry helps nothing, it only takes away from the moment. Thanks so much for stopping by! :)

  • Whitney McGruder

    This is a good mantra for everyone to remember. :) I think often, we forget how hard we work to get those things. We have nice apartments because we work full-time to pay the rent. We save our pennies for our nice clothes. We went to school or perfected a trade so we can enjoy our talents, make money, or teach others. Life doesn’t usually give us things because we exist, or maybe it does. But I think the good things come in life because we’re working our butts off; we have good lives because we’re trying to be good. Whether you believe in God, Life, or Karma, you can’t get bad when you release good. Thanks for sharing! What a good thought to start the week with.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      I just love that Whitney – you can’t get bad when you release good – I absolutely live by that and love that. I’m so glad you stopped by to share your thoughts on this, I love talking about this kind of stuff :) Hope your week is unfolding beautifully! xo

  • chellie schmitz

    This made me happy to read! Your gratitude is contagious. We all have bad days too, and that even makes us appreciate the good days more. And I think if we can enjoy the good days with no guilt, it’s good practice for finding gratitude in those not so good days and moments.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Aw thanks Chellie your comment put a huge smile on my face 😀 I absolutely agree that enjoying the good days is good practice for when the bad comes along. Thanks for stopping by and chatting! :)

  • http://www.tidbitsofexperience.com/ crystal

    You’re right we do have the right to enjoy the good things that happen in our life. We can find more good even when the chips are down. I love the little comparisons you put throughout this post.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      “We can find more good even when the chips are down.” I love that Crystal! Thanks so much for the comment love and thanks for stopping by. :)

  • http://www.preparednessmama.com/ PreparednessMama

    When we learn to appreciate the little things in life it become full of wonder and joy. “When things are going good for you, let them go good. Be grateful, and enjoy this goodness. Meditate on it. Enjoy it like the first bite of a greasy, cheesy pepperoni pizza” Oh yeah!

  • Pam McCormick

    This is beautiful and inspirational!! “Let life love me” is so true. :) I’ll be sharing this post. :) Thank you!

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Thanks so much again for sharing this Pam! I’m so glad it resonated with you, and I’m so glad you stopped by! xoxo

  • http://fillingmyprayercloset.com/ Cristina

    “Let life love me”. Is that a mantra, or what?! I’m sharing with with my tribe members. They need this message today!!!

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      AWESOME thanks SO much Cristina! :) xoxo

  • http://moneytobemade.ucoz.com/ Maketta

    There is a saying,”If you are grateful God will give you more.” So, we should be grateful for everything that we are given. Thanks for sharing this with us!

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Absolutely Maketta, and I love that saying! Prayer is a form of thanksgiving. Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing the comment love, and for sharing your thoughts. Seeing these comments here have completely made my week! :)

  • http://www.screenwriterswife.com/ The Screenwriter’s Wife

    This is a really interesting idea for a blog; I’m glad I found it! As I think some other commenters also said – I don’t see it as ‘guilt’ for enjoying a good day, but as ‘gratitude’ in recognizing that the good days makes the not-so-good days worth it.

  • http://fabulousfodmaps.blogspot.co.uk/ Susie Fruitcake

    Thank you. I do enjoy the good things (I particularly enjoy the fact that I feel well most of the time these days) but it’s nice to be given ‘permission’ to enjoy it completely. :)

  • http://alocalwander.com A Local Wander

    Sometimes it is okay to tell the world, “Hey, things are awesome in my life right now!” Maybe gives a little hope to the next girl needing it.

  • http://www.lizduke.com/ Elizabeth Duke

    We should not have to feel shame for having good things happen to us. We should appreciate the good times in our lives and enjoy it while we can, because there will always be bad things that happen also. That is just inevitable. Even during these bad times we can find good if we just take a look around and learn to appreciate the little things in life that can be appreciated. Thank you for sharing.

  • http://www.earningmytwocents.com Alice @ Earning My Two Cents

    Right. So right. I have a hard time being in the moment and letting go of fear of the good moment leaving or going bad. Thanks for the food for thought

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      And thank YOU for stopping by Alice! Loved your new home blog post! :)

  • Ashley Tannock

    I think that this applies to everyone. We always feel guilty for letting life love us and fear the moment will go wrong. Thank you for sharing.

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Totally agree, Ashley. I’m guilty of feeling guilty when things are going great. I even sometimes feel badly for telling people that life is going good when they ask. It’s almost like we have to talk about our problems in order to relate to people these days. Just an interesting thought I had just now, haha. Thanks for stopping by!!

  • A Mother’s Design

    Love this! I have taken classes about having an “Attitude of Gratitude” and I think this is perfect. People find it hard to be grateful but I think this is a great reminder of why it’s OK

    • http://anovelquest.com Monique Muro

      Absolutely! An ‘attitude of gratitude’…I love it! Thanks so much for stopping by today :)

  • Melissa Vera

    I so love this. A thankful heart is a happy heart.